What Kind of Homepreschool Mom are You?
Posted by homeschoolmentormom on July 8, 2010
Tonight I wanted to muse about about different types of homepreschooling moms. I’ve noticed three common types over the years; I wonder if you agree with my observations.
1. Keep ’em Busy Moms: These moms have a singular goal: Keep their preschoolers busy and “out of their hair”. These moms overload their homes with toys and videos, with the hope that they will keep their children occupied and quiet. These moms interact with their children only when they have to: When the children are misbehaving, need physical care, or when meals must be served. There is no schedule, little conversation, little time spent reading, little to no time spent participating in enriching art activities (too messy), and even less intentional spiritual or character training happening in these homes.
2. Competitive Moms: These moms are aware of the importance of the preschool years, and have the best of intentions: They want to give their children every academic advantage. They follow a strict daily schedule overloaded with “educational” activities, phonics lessons, math lessons, music lessons, and more. There is little time for creative play…all play must have an educational purpose. Toys likewise must be “educational”, with electronic games dominating the toy box. There is a lot of time spent reading aloud, but the reading selections are often too advanced for the children to enjoy. Art and other enriching activities are offered, but since the emphasis is often on a lesson or an end product instead of the experience itself, the children don’t enjoy the activities. While there is much time spent in conversation, there is little time to enjoy each other’s company…there is little time for JOY. The children feel pushed, pressured and stressed; day by day, they are become more and more squirmy and resistant to their “lessons”. Little time is spent on Bible or character training, since the total emphasis of the home is on academics. The pressure is always on for these children, and the relationship they have with their parents suffers because of it.
3. The Balanced Mom: The balanced mom seeks to address the needs of the WHOLE child…academically, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The balanced mom first and foremost emphasizes relationship with her children. It is her goal to help her children grow close personal relationships God, and then with his/her family.
Balanced moms understand that children need to feel wanted and loved, and so she deliberately spends time working, playing and talking with their children everyday.
Balanced moms develop a simple daily schedule for her children–one that includes reading Bible stories, prayer, music, story time, and play time. Children often dabble in art or music– (just for fun), and spend hours playing every day. These children are neither ignored or indulged, over-stimulated or under-stimulated.
Balanced moms want their children to learn, but understand that every child learns best in natural ways, and at his/her own pace. Balanced moms see all of life as a learning opportunity, and try to take advantage of the interests and ‘teachable moments” in the lives of her children.
The balanced mom “makes the main thing the main thing,” emphasizing personal relationship with God, and character training.
What type of mom are you? What type of mom do you WANT to be?!
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